It's probably not just -- [wait. hold on. she stops herself, because being like "your dad is probably losing his mind a LOT" is not helpful] ... Mm, do you like him? Your father.
hm x2. he's going to be distracted with feeding their squirrel friend for a second. ]
That'd be a little hard, I think. [ ...but it's shenhe, and it's not like it's a secret. it's just a thing he hasn't really gotten around to telling people since it wasn't relevant. ] She, uh. She died a couple of months ago. But she'd be concerned, yeah.
Only if you really mean it. [ which is to say: ] Some people offer condolences because they do feel bad for the situation and some do just because they think they're supposed to. But...it's okay. We knew it was coming when she got sicker so...it was just a matter of time.
I would mean it. [she's not in the habit of saying things she doesn't mean. there's a long, long pause, because she's kind of just trying to decide if she should go down this path, but then:] My mother died of sickness, too.
[she's not sure if that helps, but in order to relate with people, you have to offer things about yourself. she thinks that's how it works.]
[ ...very funny that this is probably one of the first people who can actually relate to that. but it also kind of solidifies something he knew about shenhe and his opinions of her. ]
I'm sorry. [ which he can say since he also means it. she might not think that it helps, but it does if only because it feels less weird or like it's only him. it does make him a little curious though. ] Do you remember much about her?
It's almost...worse, maybe? When it's that early in your life. At least with my mom there's still...a lot of memories with her. It's a little easier to think about it that way.
[ ... ]
He's what I had left after she died, so...it's only fair I try to be better and keep our relationship good. [ but. ] ...and I'm sorry about yours.
[ because "he never recovered" never really implies anything good. ]
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but. hm. well. he considers his words carefully on the subject. ]
It's not big or anything. But I have my dad, so...if they really do think we're dead back where we came from he's probably losing his mind a little.
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It's probably not just -- [wait. hold on. she stops herself, because being like "your dad is probably losing his mind a LOT" is not helpful] ... Mm, do you like him? Your father.
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I mean...he's my dad? [ he shrugs a little. ] I mean I guess I was closer to my mom, but I don't dislike my dad or anything. We get along and stuff.
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Will your mother not also be concerned about you being gone?
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hm x2. he's going to be distracted with feeding their squirrel friend for a second. ]
That'd be a little hard, I think. [ ...but it's shenhe, and it's not like it's a secret. it's just a thing he hasn't really gotten around to telling people since it wasn't relevant. ] She, uh. She died a couple of months ago. But she'd be concerned, yeah.
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[oops, SHE FEELS KIND OF BAD.] I shouldn't have asked. [she tilts her head.]
... Is this the sort of thing I should say I'm sorry, to?
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Only if you really mean it. [ which is to say: ] Some people offer condolences because they do feel bad for the situation and some do just because they think they're supposed to. But...it's okay. We knew it was coming when she got sicker so...it was just a matter of time.
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I would mean it. [she's not in the habit of saying things she doesn't mean. there's a long, long pause, because she's kind of just trying to decide if she should go down this path, but then:] My mother died of sickness, too.
[she's not sure if that helps, but in order to relate with people, you have to offer things about yourself. she thinks that's how it works.]
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I'm sorry. [ which he can say since he also means it. she might not think that it helps, but it does if only because it feels less weird or like it's only him. it does make him a little curious though. ] Do you remember much about her?
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Thank you. [first. and then:] No. I was very young. Five or six. My father was devastated. He never recovered.
[...] I'm glad to know that you get along with your father, Jonas, even if it isn't anything special.
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[ ... ]
He's what I had left after she died, so...it's only fair I try to be better and keep our relationship good. [ but. ] ...and I'm sorry about yours.
[ because "he never recovered" never really implies anything good. ]